Paczki Day

It's Paczki Day!  Mardi Gras - Fat Tuesday, hehehe. Every paczki day I think about my old best friend Johnny. He is half Polish. In Jr High, I always knew it was Packi Day because here comes Johnny down to the bus stop with a big jelly filled powder donut and a huge glob of jelly dripping off his chin. Yep, it's Paczki Day. That is my funny little memory.

Ugh! Today I am so achey. Yuck. I have Chronic Fatigue and Fybromyalgia. Days like these, when the weather is changing (it is rainy  here in MI) make me just ache all over and want to stay in bed. I wish I were at the beach laying in the sun.

Aunt Marlene

 Rest In Peace, Aunt Marlene

 

My Aunt Marlene died on New Years Eve, 12/31/07. She had many health problems and they finally got the best of her. It seemed to happen so quick though. She went downhill quick. I saw her on her birthday in late November and she seemed fine. I still can't believe that she is gone.

 

Aunt Marlene had schizophrenia. She suffered with that for most of her adult life. She was married to an abusive husband. After she had 3 sons, she had a nervous breakdown. She was never the same again. She was in an out of institutions in the 50's and 60's and did receive the infamous shock treatment. My grandparents took care of her when she was not hospitalized. After my grandparents died, my Mom took care of Aunt Marlene. Aunt Marlene was a paranoid schizophrenic. She took medication for it but there is no cure. She believed that people stole her body and replaced it with another one. She also believed that the people were still inside of her, spying on her. She was never violent but she was always talking to people that weren't there. She would often yell at them, sometimes saying "Get out of my crotch!" It was funny. The fact that she was ill was not funny but the stuff she would say and do sometimes was funny. She knew it and would laugh at herself. She tried to make the best out of life.

 

After she died I was very sad becuase I thought about what a sh!tty life she had. My Mom was having the same thoughts too. Then I started thinking it is not fair for me to call Aunt Marlene's life sh!tty. She had her problems and the way and time she died was unfortunate. It sucked that she died around Christmas. She loved getting and giving presents. She didn't get to celebrate that her last year. She did have some good times and was able to have a fairly good life for a person so mentally ill. Living with my Mom, she had a nice room, got to shop (which she loved), and got to be part of our immediate family (her sons had their own problems - not much contact with them). Aunt Marlene was always a big help to my Mom too, she liked to do dishes. Aunt Marlene even went out to the movies sometimes with a lady from Social Services. She has more than a lot of people in her situation. She made the best of her life and I have to tell myself and my Mom that it was not a bad life.

 

Aunt Marlene has always been an ispiration to me. It is because of her that I have always had an interest in psychology. I want to be a psychologist and I hope to help people like Aunt Marlene. I want to find a way to prevent people from going through the same things she went through. I hope I can live up to that and honor her.

Myspace/Facebok/Spaces

Check out myspace www.myspace.com/jashalyn

 

So I have had a myspace since 2005 or so. I got it because my friends at work had myspace, also my old friend Melissa had one to keep tabs on her teenagers. I have never done anything with it until recently. My stepson got a myspace so I decided to do something to my page so he won't feel too embarrassed to have me as a friend. Hehee. Maybe he will anyway though, no matter how I present my page.  I am putting a lot of my pics over there though because a lot of family has myspace and it is good to keep your pics in many different places. I learned that after my old computer broke and then Sony Image Station closed.  I also have contacted 2 old friends I lost touch with. It just seems more people are on Myspace than anywhere.

 

I also started a facebook page. I did that because my friend Melissa moved over there and to see if I could find this one old friend I have been searching for. Facebook is supposed to be better than myspace. It is not as fun and no one I know is over there, except Melissa. It is boring over there.

 

I like MSN spaces. I started this page when Spaces came out because it seemed easier than Myspace. I got my page up real quick. No one I know is over here yet though. I wonder if it will ever be as popular as Myspace? I think it is easier to find people on Myspace. The search feature on spaces can be a little confusing.

 

I want to write more so I am going to try to keep a blog. I always wanted to keep a journal or diary but never could stick with it. Blogging is more fun than keeping a journal - it is more colorful and you can add pics and stuff. I think I will mostly blog over here though,  so my stepson won't read (and be embarrassed by..) what I write, not that he would read it over on myspace. The kid is not big on reading.  Maybe I will blog on both, deeper thoughts over here so not many (if any) people will see it. Should be fun.

Writing

I need to start writing more. I used to like to write but I just can't get into it. Well, most of the writing I do is for school and it sucks to have to write a certain way or about subjects you really aren't that interested in. I am taking an english class right now titled "Reading Pop Culture". It is mildly interesting but you have to read various required articles and texts and write something every week. You have to write about what the professor asks you to write about. It is hard because either I don't have much to say on the subject or I have something to say but it is not about what the Prof wants us to focus on. So I need to learn to focus and hone my writing abilities. I always want to do too much, include to much in my writing. I also have trouble starting off any paper I write. Introductions and conclusions just kill me. I have to think about how I want to present what I want to say for days. I don't always have days to let it formulate. So I think if I start writing more it will help me get faster focusing and writing my thoughts.

More Wedding Pics

Check out the new weddig pics I put up. Chuck and I received an awesome Christmas present from a family friend, Randy. He made us an album of wedding pictures he took on his digital camera. They are really good pics. It is nice to see different perspectives of the wedding. There are a few short movies, but I don't know how to post them. This was such a thoughtful gift. Thanks Randy!

Time to relax!

I am so happy Christmas is over! Now I can relax. Also, the fall semester at school is over - WOOHOO! I made the Dean's List. I am so excited! I actually put in my application for graduation too! I have enough credits to get my Associates degree. That is awesome.

Work and Misc. Thoughts

WORK

 

Work sucks! hahaha, why can't we all be wealthy? I am a server. I am a pretty good waitress and I do like waiting tables but in most restaurants I have worked cooks are just A$$HOLES. What is the deal with that? Aren't we all supposed to be working toward the same goal - giving the customers good food and service, making them want to return?

I worked Friday and Saturday night and the cooks were giving all the waitresses a hard time. The boss was on a short vacation. He actually came into the restaurant before we closed. I talked to him about the cook's attitudes. I hated to do it because I didn't want to stir up trouble but I can't take their horrible (majorly chauvinistic) attitude anymore. He told me they need to change their attitude. He is a pretty good guy but sometimes he is afraid to lay down the law. Now the boss wants to have a meeting with everyone. YIKES! He said he has wanted to do this for a long time now. I also found out that one of the other waitresses quit. She is actually a friend of the boss and she has been upset about the way the cooks treat us. I think that she has been talking to the boss about it and when she quit I think the boss said to himself "enough is enough". I hope the meeting goes OK. I don't think anything will change much though. I'll see.

 

GRAMMAR

 

Ok, not to sound like a total Bwitch but what is the deal with people's poor grammar and spelling? I read the blog of an aquaintance and her grammar and spelling are atrocious. I guess maybe the fact that I do not like this person makes me a little critical. I have seen a lot of bad grammar and spelling on the internet so it must be because the internet is so casual. I just think if you are putting a blog out there you should at least try to use proper grammar and spelling. You are making a page about yourself and putting it out there for all to see. If people are coming away from your page thinking you're not too smart, well that is just sad. Make it a learning experience. It is called www.dictionary.com and proofreading and it takes 5 seconds to look up a word and a couple of minutes to proofread a few paragraphs. Try it people, you might learn something! Now you do think I am a total Bwitch, don't you? By the way, is there spell check and grammar check on this MSN spaces blog? haha.

I guess I was irritated after reading the aforementioned aquaintance's blog because this person has such a high opinion of herself. I mean if you are that wonderful you should be able to spell and use proper grammar. This person is supposedly a legal secretary. I feel sorry for her boss, if they expect her to write anything on the job. Perhaps I should cut her a break but I have read other things she has written and it is always the same. Poor grammar and poor spelling, all the while she is trying to come off like she is so intelligent and better than everyone else. Yuck!

All this being said, I need to work on my punctuation. Can you tell I am taking an English class this semester? So concerned with these tedious writing matters.

 

FOOTBALL

 

Is it un-American not to like football? I have never liked it and just hearing a game on TV sends me into a depression. It bores me to tears. Everybody seems to like it but me and my hubby. I get the feeling people think we are out of it because we don't like it. I think people expect you to be so gung-ho about football (even the local high school team). When they discover you could care less about it all you fail to matter as a person in their eyes. Everybody has their interests, just don't expect everyone to share yours, OK. VIVA LA DIFFERANCE

 

 

Gee whiz, am I in a bad mood or what? I don't feel like it but my blog is so negative. I am done with my b!tch fest now. On a positive note, I am going to visit one of my favorite places Sunday - Henry Ford Museum. There is an exhibit there - "Rock Stars Cars and Guitars". It should be really cool.

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