Why are some people such liars? Why are they afraid of the truth? Is the truth so awful or their life so awful that to lie about things is better for them to stomach? Doesn't their conscience bother them? I know people lie to get away with stuff or to not hurt someone elses feelings but some people lie about anything and everything for no good reason. Well I guess they think it makes them look better, or they are trying to hide who they really are. I can't help to think that it ultimately hurts them inside and may hurt the people they love. Also, most of the time the people they are trying to fool the most are on to them, or they have already broken their trust.
I am not saying that I have never told a lie. I am not saying that it is always better to tell the truth (most of the time I believe it is). I can see telling a lie if you want to spare someone's feelings, but to tell lie after lie about little things or big things, or to try to hurt someone with a lie is plain wrong. It shows a decided lack of maturity in an adult and may point to a lack of conscience too. Truly, an adult that consistently lies is a messed up person. I wish they could/would put all that energy used to tell lies into becoming a better person.
So all that being said, yes, I am perplexed by liars. I wonder what can be done to help adults that lie, lie, lie? What treatment is best? Throw their lies up in their face? Point out every known instance of a lie and ask them why? Point out their good qualities and have them focus on that, or help them develop some good qualities? Hhhmmmmmm.
I also wonder about how the people around a liar are affected? What if the liar is a parent - how does it affect the kids? Do the kids learn to see lying as proper behavior? Do they grow up to be liars themselves?
This is why i divorced mt x husband~ i know now it is a diease for him. he often doesnt know its a lie till after its came out of his mouth. its really sad. a friend once told me all men lie. they can\'t help it. i pray he was lieing!
ReplyDeleteYes, I hope your friend is wrong. I think most people lie at some point but usually when you hit a certain age you begin to realize that it really is not becoming of an adult. I guess some people just never get there. Maybe a lot of men just never grow up, haha. We\'ve all heard that one before, right. I think a lot of men are afraid of real women or they are in awe of us so they feel they have to lie. Does that make sense? There are plenty of women liars too, I just think they get away with it more often because they maybe cute.
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